Why are we so quick to believe
in the self-help books, instead of our own instincts?
Why does some silly theory from the so called 'experts'
seem to make more sense to us than what we know to
be true about the human experience? And why are we
so eager to suspend our common sense when it comes
to the opposite sex? The answer is one simple word:
insecurity.
It is our insecurity that makes
us believe that when things go wrong with that special
person in our lives, it is because of something we
did, or even more insidious, the way we are. We are
too argumentative. We always speak before thinking.
That's just the way men are, we have to learn to accept
it. And if it was something we did well, then, there
must be a way to fix it, or rather us. This way of
thinking is especially prevalent amongst young women,
who have always been brought up to believe that they
are just not good enough, that they have to constantly
jump through hoops to achieve validation and appreciation
from those around them.
This is why you'll see women's
magazines filled with article after article about
how to change their physical appearances, in order
to make themselves more valued. And if that isn't
enough, there's always your personality to work on
as well -- how to make yourself friendlier, funnier,
wittier, more assertive. There's nothing wrong with
a little self-improvement, but here it is taken to
extremes. In fact, the women's magazine industry thrives
on promoting insecurity in women, again for the sake
of selling more copies. The men's magazines are starting
to
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